Dating courtship history
In the early 18th century, the American patriarchal home was at its finest. OVERTHROW A MONARCHY, EROTICALLY Ah, but then came the Revolutionary era. It was no longer so deathly important that the farm of Goodman Figgenbottom share the water rights of Goodman Pundersnoot, by way of their children sharing bodily fluids.And not patriarchal as we use the term today, where it can be applied to anything from the injustice of the glass ceiling to men who insist on standing up to pee. Plus, the idea of "patriarchy" and completely ruling your "subjects" was losing its popularity in an America that was screaming at a king to stay out of its room. PROMISE TO STAY ON YOUR SIDE OF THE BUNDLING BOARD By comparing marriage records with subsequent birth records, historians can tell that by the late 18th century, 30 to 40 percent of American brides were pregnant at their weddings.“I liken the emails to modern day love letters,” said Stephanie Kandel, who met her husband Tyler Kandel through in 1999.“I learned so much about Tyler through those emails, where as when you meet someone in a bar you don't really get in depth and really get to know that person.” “I do remember asking Stephanie if I could kiss her on the first date,” said Tyler. I never, never kiss on the first date.' And, then about 20 minutes later we were making out.” They've now been married for four years.In the 1950's courtship was formal and elaborate — a routine of going steady, getting pinned and then engaged, all under the watchful eyes of parents.The 1960s brought feminist freedom and the birth control pill. In that same era, dating services found their way on to the scene.For those still wanting to meet in person, a new phenomenon has emerged.Speed dating is a series of 10 to 20 dates in one night, each lasting as little as five to eight minutes.
You can thank your lucky stars (and possibly your ancestors) that you don't have to go through any of them today. Gone were the days that a girl pointing across a magistrate's court to a scruffy farm boy was enough to force him to marry her. Marriage wasn't as formal an affair back then as you might think.But with bundling, if the girl should fall pregnant, there would be plenty of witnesses to claim the boy in question had access and opportunity. No ruination for the girl, no fatherless child, no shame for the parents, and the guy? You didn't need a license or even a presiding authority.Back then, big computers helped people find a mate.And long before the days of shows like "The Bachelor," 1965 brought us "The Dating Game," the forerunner in TV dating shows for singles.
By the mid-1800s a shortage of women in the rapidly-expanding West forced men to place ads like this one, which appeared in an Arkansas newspaper: "Any gal that got a bed, calico dress, coffee pot and skillet, knows how to cut out britches and can make a hunting shirt, knows how to take care of children can have my services till death do us part." Practical life demanded less romance and more of what a woman could bring to the marriage.